102 Dating Tips To Help You Find The Love Of Your Life 102 Dating Tips to Help You Find the Love of Your Life

 

102 Dating Tips To Help You Find The

Love Of Your Life

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102 Dating Tips to Help You Find the Love of Your Life

Dating Tips for Women

1. Remember to keep your ears open more than your mouth. Your date is not one

of your girlfriends, and he probably would enjoy a chance to talk about himself and

his interests for a little while too. If he seems uninterested in sharing, it may just be

that he’s quiet. Ask questions to get him talking about himself and what interests

him.

2. Get dressed up. Nothing says “I’m not interested” quite as loudly as showing up for

a date poorly dressed. You don’t have to be a fashion diva, but make a little extra

effort to show your date that you took time with him in mind. Dress appropriately for

the activity of the day and always be prepared for the unexpected.

3. Avoid talking about your past dates and ex-partners. Should the relationship

progress past a few solitary dates, you might be in a place where it is ok to talk about

these people, but in general you should steer clear of mentioning them as much as

possible. If you do mention previous partners, you are risking giving your date the

impression that he might never live up to your memories or that you are still hung up

on an ex.

4. Do not be rude. This includes being rude to your date, the babysitter, your waiter

and the woman behind the counter at the coffee shop. Use your best manners and be

polite as much as possible. Remember that the goal is to make a good impression!

And expect the same in return. Pay attention to how your date talks to you and to

others and whether they treat others with respect.

5. Watch your language. While a man may be impressed at his new buddy’s ability to

curse like a sailor, chances are that he does not want to hear the same from a lady

friend. If you want to be respected, you need to act as though you deserve respect

after all.

6. Don’t keep him waiting. Remember that old saying about being fashionably late?

No? Good! It’s not nice to keep your date waiting and being late can demonstrate

disrespect and disorganization. If you cannot avoid being late, be sure to call as soon

as you realize that you will be running behind.

7. Avoid talking politics. While you may be passionate about your favorite political

candidate, there is a good chance that a political discussion could ruin a perfectly fun

evening. It is important to avoid arrogance on a date and although you may feel

strongly about a specific issue or candidate there is no guarantee that you are right.

So you are definitely better to avoid hot topics altogether.

8. Never cancel a date last minute, unless you are cancelling as a result of a family

emergency. If you know that you need to cancel, it is important to give the other

person plenty of notice so that they can reschedule the time. If you don’t, there is a

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good chance that your date will not be understanding, ruining your chance of seeing

them again in the future.

9. Make your date feel as though he is the only person in the room. Remember that a

date is about two people getting to know one another. Therefore, you should focus all

of your attention on your date. This will make the other person feel special and

important. Also, make sure that you maintain eye contact with your date as much as

possible throughout the evening to show attentiveness.

10. Be classy, but avoid extravagance. It is important to look classy on your dates, but

to avoid being overly showy. Even if you have a pair of 2 carat diamond earrings you

should not necessarily wear them on the first date. However, you should try to avoid

wearing jeans unless you are going to an amusement park or a baseball game.

Business casual attire is almost always appropriate for a first date, and it shows that

you care about how you look and respect yourself.

11. Don’t worry so much about the future. There are some times when two people are

simply not going to be attracted to one another. Even if you find your date to be

completely unattractive, you should still show him the courtesy of making the

evening enjoyable. Smile, be polite and have a good time. There’s no rule that you

can’t just be friends.

12. Don’t’ lie. Honesty is always the best policy, and unless you want your date to find

out some time in the future that you based the beginning of your relationship on a

series of lies, it is far better to be honest from the beginning. After all, don’t you

expect the same level of honesty from your date?

13. Make sure that your date feels comfortable. If you notice that your date is feeling

uncomfortable for any reason, it’s a good time to either change the subject or possibly

suggest moving to another activity or location. Ask yourself why your date might be

uneasy and do whatever you can to make him feel more comfortable.

14. Be witty and cute! There’s nothing wrong with a few witty comments. It’s

important to show your date that you can be both smart and attractive. Be sure to keep

your conversation on topics that are not opinionated or aggressive and you are certain

to charm anyone listening.

15. If you don’t like your date the first time, either resolve to give him a second shot

or just be honest. It’s unfair and rude to leave the door open to future dates if you are

simply uninterested. Don’t promise to call unless you intend to call. And don’t lead

him on. Sometimes one person feels chemistry that the other person does not, and it

is unfair to take advantage of the other person’s feelings. It is far better to just be

honest.

16. Don’t date other people when you are in a relationship. If you do, be completely

honest with the guy. Remember that you would expect that same level of honesty. It

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is important for your date to realize that there may be nothing more than a single date

as a result of your prior involvement.

17. Look great but not uninviting. Beautiful hair and light makeup go a long way no

matter what you are wearing. Focus on looking your best at all times, but be natural

and be yourself. Make sure that your clothes fit properly and if that shirt is wrinkled,

iron it before you head out for the evening!

18. Keep dates brief. If you want to keep your men interested, you should keep your

dates brief so that they have to call for another date if they want to spend more time

with you. Open ended dates are okay as well, that way you have the opportunity to

end the date when you are ready or to continue it for a longer time if you are both

enjoying the evening.

19. Stay in shape. When you are on the dating scene, it is important to stay as healthy

and fit as you possibly can. After all, although they may not plainly state it, your

dates are going to be just as interested in your looks as they are in your brains. Don’t

be obsessive, but pay attention to what you eat and get plenty of exercise. This way,

you will be looking and feeling your best.

20. Don’t always say yes. Even if you are going to be sitting at home petting your cat on

Friday night, a Thursday night dinner invitation may be too short of notice! Don’t

say yes to every date, or at least not to the proposed time. This will help you to find

out which men are interested for real and which are just bored and without plans for

the following evening.

21. Never make assumptions. If you have a question for your date, it is important to

simply ask the question. It is far better to have the real answer than to make

assumptions, because should the relationship continue you may find yourself

continuing to hold incorrect assumptions.

22. Avoid possessive men as much as possible. If you are on a date and the guy starts

getting possessive, this is most likely a sign of insecurity. Give him a chance to

change the behavior by pointing it out or just resolve that he’s not the right guy for

you and move on.

23. Keep an eye on his shoes. The shoes that a man wears are a good indication of how

well he takes care of himself. If he shows up in ragged shoes, unless you are going

hiking, you should be on the lookout for other similar signs. Remember that everyone

has a bad day now and again and don’t be too critical the first time his appearance is

lacking. But, if he is constantly disheveled, you might want to think about what else

in his life is not in order.

24. Be careful to never come across as completely available or desperate. Even if you

haven’t had a date in months there is no reason to tell him that. Let him pursue you

and show him that you’re worth chasing. Don’t say yes every time he calls and give

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him the impression that you’re busy occasionally so that he doesn’t think you’re

sitting at home waiting for his every call.

25. Concentrate on fun and savor every date. Getting nervous about the second date

while you’re still on the first is a bad move. Stop obsessing, and just enjoy the time

that you are spending with Mr. Wonderful. And remember that even an awesome

first date might not guarantee a good second date.

26. Show some class. Remember that while men are going to be attracted to you

physically, it is more important that they are attracted to your class if you are looking

for something a little more serious. Show your intelligence, your ability to be caring

and sensitive and don’t be afraid to mention the last book you read. It’s not all about

your looks; your brains are just as important to anyone worth keeping around!

27. Don’t put up with being second best. If you are on a date with a man whose eyes

have spent more time wandering than they have on you, then find a way to make a

quick escape. Thank him for the evening and don’t give him the chance to waste any

more of your time. In general, it is best not to just walk out in the middle of a date

because it’s rude. However, in a particularly uncomfortable situation, it might be

better for you to leave on your own.

28. Look for men who know who they are and what they want. Many women will tell

you that there’s nothing more attractive in a man than confidence. If you are looking

for a confident man, seek those who seem to have a presence that says they know

who they are and where they are going with their lives. And remember that just

because a man does not have your ideal job or income level, it doesn’t mean that he’s

not worth getting to know better.

29. Laugh at his jokes. Generally - unless your date tells you a joke that is completely

tasteless - it is polite to laugh at his jokes. Remember that this might be his way of

making you feel comfortable. You should do the same in return! Even if you just

heard the joke an hour earlier, laugh and make him think you’ve never heard it

before.

30. Keep the conversation flowing. Even the worst dates can end up well thanks to good

conversation. Have a few questions in mind to spark your date’s interest. Just try not

to make it seem like a job interview. If you’re out of practice, consider trying out your

questions on a friend ahead of time. Sometimes, it’s easier to ask questions that you

are not asking for the first time.

31. Be confident. We all get nervous on first dates, it’s expected. But once the date has

actually started, be confident and show your confidence in yourself. A good way to

show low confidence is to remain silent throughout the date. Don’t do it! Be yourself

and show your date that you are having a good time.

 

32. Be yourself. Don’t try to fool anyone by pretending to be something or someone you

are not. Remember that if the first date goes well, you might find yourself spending

more time with this guy in the future. Let him know who you are from the very

beginning, otherwise if he finds out later that you aren’t who you pretended to be, the

relationship could come to a screeching halt.

33. Use excellent table manners. Even if you go to a casual place for dinner, take the

time to show your date that you are a lady. Put your napkin on your lap, don’t eat

with your fingers unless you are eating finger food and always keep your mouth

closed while you chew! If your mother was sitting at the table, would she be proud of

you?

34. Stay away from overly personal questions. The first date is about getting to know

the other person, but there are some topics that are better left for later dates.

Remember that if things go well, you will have plenty of chances to ask personal

questions later. And sometimes, the fewer details your date has about your personal

life the better, particularly if the date does not go as well as you had hoped.

35. Always say thank you. Even if the date turned out to be a nightmarish experience it

is important to thank your date for taking time to spend with you. A thank you at the

end of the evening is an excellent open door for your date to ask you out again or for

you to end the evening quickly if you would prefer not to see the other person again.

36. Pay attention to how much you are drinking. Whether it’s wine with dinner, beers

with friends or martinis after a show it is important to maintain your senses when you

are on a date. Getting drunk puts your safety in question and it could result in you

saying or doing things that you might very well regret later on.

37. Always tell someone who you are with and where you are going. This is

particularly important on a first date. Whether you tell a friend or a family member,

just be sure that someone knows where you will be. Should anything bad happen,

they will have a way to locate you quickly.

38. Get to the point if you have no intention of going on another date with someone.

If you simply have no intention of seeing this guy again, tell him that. Being nice is

not always the best policy. A good approach is to thank your date at the end of the

evening and then to explain that you are simply feeling no chemistry between the two

of you. Be aware that he may ask for a second chance. You need to decide in

advance whether or not this is something that you would consider.

39. At the end of the evening, if you are not interested, don’t tell him you’d prefer to

be friends. That is of course, unless you have decided that there is some type of

chemistry between the two of you. Chemistry does not always have to be romantic,

and if you think there’s a chance for friendship then there’s no harm in it. But be

honest and give him the opportunity to say no.

40. Be soft but firm with your rejection. Men are not the best signal interpreters. It is

better to be forthright and honest, particularly if you do not want to see him again.

Otherwise, you are setting him up to be hurt and putting yourself in a situation where

he may not get the subliminal messages you are sending.

41. Know what you are looking for. If you have a good idea of the type of partner you

are looking for, you are destined to be looking for a shorter period of time than

someone who doesn’t know what they want. Don’t date men just to say you have a

date. Be discriminative and only date those men who have what you are looking for.

42. Keep the first date as casual as possible. It is important to remember that the first

date is about figuring out whether or not you’d like to spend more time getting to

know the other person. But at the same time, you need to make every effort to keep

the date as casual as possible. Your goal is to find the right person for you and you

will not figure this out in one single date. Take the time to get to know your date and

then decide whether or not this person seems to really have what you are looking for.

43. Before the date, worry less about making a good impression and more about

how you are going to feel about the other person. You will be looking and feeling

great and you need to allow yourself to spend the evening figuring out what you think

of the other person.

44. Don’t feel the need to settle. After women are on the dating scene for a while, they

may begin to question whether they are simply being too picky about the men in their

lives. Don’t fall into this trap! Until you find Mr. Right, continue to look. And, never

settle for someone simply because you think you’ll never find the right one for you.

45. Pay attention to the small things. Be careful not to come across as cold or uncaring

to your date. After all, men are looking for someone to love. If you don’t come

across as lovable there is a good chance that he will assume you aren’t. Men like

feminine women, so be sure to try to show your feminine side as much as possible!

46. Be challenging. Men prefer to be challenged in relationships, so that they do not

become bored. This is not to say that you should try to compete with your date, but

be interesting and unique. A challenged man is a man who will try to rise and meet

the challenge. So be interesting and keep him chasing for some time to come.

47. Men are looking for commitment. In general, most men are looking for women

who want to commit to them. They want and need someone to confide in and trust. If

you are not interested in a commitment, it is important to be honest from the

beginning to avoid hurt feelings. This is something you may not discover for a few

dates, but be on the lookout for the signs if you are looking to avoid a long term

commitment.

48. Use your eyes. Eye contact is very important. Your eyes can speak at length on your

behalf! If you are interested in someone, make and keep eye contact with them as

much as possible. First, make direct eye contact and then let them catch you making

sideways glances. Let him catch you! Then turn your eyes downward and smile.

He’ll pick up on this signal that you are interested.

49. Be aware of your body language. If you are interested in your date, never sit with

your arms crossed. If you are cold, you might want to make a comment about it if you

do have your arms crossed for warmth though. One sure way to show interest is to

keep your hands moving gracefully, possibly over to remove that piece of lint from

his jacket.

50. Be cautious. Safety is something that you need to pay particular attention to when

you are dating. Always go to public and well-lit places for your first date and make

sure that you have a safe way home should the date turn sour. Never drink and drive,

and pay attention to how much alcohol you are drinking when you are out with

someone you do not know very well.

51. Consider giving out your email address rather than your phone number. Email

addresses are easy to change, as opposed to phone numbers. When you meet a man

for the first time and he asks for your number, consider giving him your email address

instead. If by some chance he becomes a stalker, you can simply get a new email

address. Never give out your home address to someone you don’t know.

Dating Tips for Men

52. Be witty with your pickup lines. The first time you approach a woman; don’t try

to impress her with intelligent conversation right from the start. Instead, you need

to focus on being cute and clever so that you can get her phone number or at least

give her yours. Cliché pickup lines may seem like the way to go, but you’d be

better finding a genuine opener that she probably has not already heard a thousand

times.

53. Be completely real. Women have a way of recognizing a phony guy. Therefore,

it is important to always be yourself instead of trying to impress a woman by

being something that you are not. Even if they fall for it in the beginning they

will figure you out in time.

54. Keep her guessing. Women like a challenge as much as men. Therefore, it’s not

necessary to work hard to show her just how much you like her. Let the

relationship bloom over time and just enjoy the trip! Don’t be secretive or avoid

her questions however, when she shows interest in your life by asking questions it

is important to give her the answer.

55. Avoid awkward silences. When you’re chatting with a woman, be careful to

avoid the awkward silence when there is a lull in conversation. Have some witty

lines in mind for keeping the conversation moving. Having a witty one liner will

most likely get the ladies laughing and make you stand out from the rest in just a

few seconds.

56. A single compliment is often the best way to get the attention of a busy

woman. For example, if you are grocery shopping and you see a woman you’d

like to meet consider approaching her and giving her a very simple compliment to

start up a conversation. After a few minutes, ask her for her phone number and

tell her you’ll call later to continue the chat. Don’t forget to call when you say

you will, otherwise she may get the wrong impression.

57. If you say you’re going to call, call. This is a common mistake that many men

make. If you tell a woman that you are going to call at seven p.m., they will be

waiting for your call. Making them wait, or never calling, is rude and most

women will become quickly uninterested in a man who doesn’t follow through.

58. Send flowers. Women love to receive flowers and any day is a good day to send

or hand deliver a seasonal bouquet. Women are most impressed when a man

seems to know just the right flowers and just the right occasion. And remember

that women like surprises, so send her flowers when she’s least expecting it.

59. Be emotionally prepared. Many men forget that even the first date could be the

start of a long term relationship if things go well. Prepare yourself mentally for

the idea that the first, second or later date could be the night where you fall in

love. Being unprepared can leave you less open to the woman that you are dating

and give her the impression that you’re either not interested or just not ready.

60. Don’t start dating immediately after a break-up. After ending one

relationship, it is a bad idea to start another one right away. If you do, then the

negative feelings you may be experiencing, or the shadow of your former partner,

may loom and keep you from truly enjoying the dating experience. So take some

time to regroup and make sure that you’re ready before you start dating again.

61. Be prepared for rejection. Dating is a scary proposition for men and women

alike. There is always a risk that you will enjoy being with your date more than

she enjoys being with you, or that you will feel chemistry that she does not.

Remember that rejection is part of dating and that everyone feels rejection at one

point or another during their lives.

62. Be positive. Women are not interested in men with low self-esteem or those who

seem to have a completely negative outlook. Show your lady the value of

positive thinking. And don’t try to fake it! You need to adopt an overall positive

attitude to show her what you have to offer.

63. Be unique. There’s no rule to say that the first date must always be dinner and a

movie. If you have a favorite art gallery, museum or jazz club, consider taking

your date to one of the places that you truly enjoy. Be unique and make your date

an evening to remember for both of you.

64. Don’t be arrogant. Women do not generally fall for men who are full of

themselves so avoid spending the evening rattling on about your accomplishments

and possessions. If you do, then your date may think that you are simply putting

on an act to impress her. Be yourself and let her find out about your

accomplishments and successes in time.

65. Be a good listener. When your date is talking, she may be giving you clues about

herself that could help you win your way into her heart. If you spend all of your

time talking or simply pretending you are listening to her, then you are likely to

miss out on something important. Also, keep eye contact when she is talking so

that she can see that you are genuinely interested in what she has to say.

66. Don’t be an open book. If you reveal everything there is to know about you on

the first date, what else is left? Instead, keep her guessing. Women are creative

by nature and most prefer to imagine what you are really like for at least the first

few dates. So, take your time revealing your secrets and keep the mystery alive.

67. Keep your eyes on your date. Women are put off by men who spend the entire

evening checking out other women. Even if you are not interested in your date,

you owe her the courtesy of keeping her as your center of attention. You can

always head out the next evening with your buddies to check out the other women

in town.

68. If you are not much of a talker, have witty and smart replies. Many men

simply prefer to listen instead of talking. If this is the case with you, let the lady

do the talking. But always show interest by asking questions or commenting on

what she has to say.

69. Never admit a fear of commitment. At least not on the first date. If you are

interested in a woman, the last thing you want to tell her right off the bat is that

you are not interested in having a long term relationship. If you have a fear of

commitment or don’t want to be in a relationship at all, then it is good to be

honest. But, if you are really interested in someone you should take some time to

determine if maybe you just hadn’t come across the right person in the past.

70. Don’t be possessive. Women do not like to be treated as possessions and most

will turn and run at the first sign of a possessive man. Let her know that you value

her independence as much as she does – and mean it. Being possessive tells a

woman that you are lacking self-confidence, so be confident and appreciate her

value as a strong and independent person.

71. Look good for every date. Unless you have agreed in advance to dress casually,

it is important to spend time to look good for dates. Every woman spends hours

preparing for every day, so return the favor. While you may not spend hours

getting ready, you should be particular about what you wear and whether you are

properly groomed. A neat appearance reflects on you more than you might

realize. It makes you appear more confident, organized and responsible.

72. Choose good shoes. Believe it or not, many women will judge men simply based

on what shoes they wear. If you’ve spent hours picking out the perfect outfit, you

need to spend some time making sure that you are wearing just the right shoes as

well. Clean and well-tended shoes are a reflection on you, just as dirty and worn

shoes are. So unless you’re going to a baseball game you are better to leave your

sneakers at home!

73. Get a dating wardrobe. If you want to be prepared no matter what the occasion,

you should always have on hand a black suit, several pressed dress shirts in

various colors and casual trousers with a matching sports coat. Don’t forget the

shoes! You should have two or three pairs of modern and comfortable dress

shoes that match the rest of your wardrobe. With these essentials on hand, you

will always be prepared.

74. Avoid cheap cologne. If you do not have a bottle of high quality cologne, it is

better to either buy one or to avoid wearing any. Women appreciate men who

smell good and would prefer to avoid men who smell cheap. So invest in a

classic scent and wear it sparingly.

75. Show some ambition. Women prefer to date men with ambition. Be prepared to

answer questions about what you plan to do in the future. Remember that any job

is better than having no job and that a career is best. If you want to impress, you

need to have your life in order. Therefore, take some time to consider your future

ambitions.

76. Stay aware of the world around you. Staying current on world events and

current affairs can provide you with lots of interesting conversation starters.

Another great one is travel. Before your date think about some of the interesting

places you’ve been and have some ideas on how to use the details of your travel if

there is a lull in the conversation.

77. Use your best manners and be chivalrous. Women are very impressed by men

who have good manners. And, even the most progressive female will notice

chivalrous acts. So, open the door for her and help her into the car. And don’t

forget that napkin! It belongs in your lap. Manners are small details that women

pay attention to, so if you are out of practice it might be a good time to hone your

skills.

78. Learn to dance. Women love to dance, and if your date is out there on the dance

floor while you are sitting and watching, you may watch her dance away with

someone else! Be comfortable with yourself and get out there. Maybe you want

to consider some dance lessons or a dance class. This might even be an activity

that the two of you can enjoy together.

79. Understand how important your appearance is. Take the time to shower and

shave before your dates and always make the extra effort with your appearance. In

need of a haircut? Go get one before you meet her! Otherwise, your date may

make a decision about whether to go out with you again the second you step out

of the car. Sometimes appearances can be misleading, but you still need to make

an effort to ensure that your appearance gets her attention in a good way.

80. Compliment her. Don’t be overly effusive, but make consistent and genuine

compliments in her direction throughout the evening. This is an excellent way to

get her attention, to let her know that you think she looks great and to let her

know you’re interested. Women like to know when men are attracted to them and

compliments are an excellent vehicle for delivering the message!

81. Ask questions to get her talking. If your date is shy, she may have a difficult

time starting a conversation on the first date. Take the time to ask questions that

she can answer. Ask her what she likes to do on Saturday evenings or Sunday

mornings. Or, ask her about the last movie she saw. This way, you are showing a

genuine interest in getting to know more about her and are making her feel

comfortable opening up to you.

82. Don’t lead her on. Although you should make every effort to make the date

enjoyable for both of you, don’t prolong the evening if you simply are not

interested in a second date. Walk her to the door, thank her for a nice evening and

walk away if you want to keep the end of the evening brief. If you are interested,

you need to let her know that you would love to see her again. Either way, you

need to make every effort not to lead a woman on because it is rude and

insensitive.

83. Consider lunchtime for a first date. Many times, it’s difficult to decide just

how much time should be spent on the first date. Generally, the first date should

be fairly brief. Therefore, lunch time is a good choice when it can be arranged.

This way, there are time constraints during the week that keep the date to a short

time period. If things go well, you might consider a second lunch or move on to

asking her out for an evening.

84. Consider going out for coffee. People are getting away from traditional dinner

dates, and a coffee shop can make an excellent first date location as it gives you a

quiet, yet public place, to chat and get to know each other. Costs are minimal and

there’s no predetermined rule that says you can’t take your coffee to go if things

aren’t working out. And, coffee shops are a relaxed atmosphere where you can be

comfortable and just be yourself.

85. Play tourist. Chances are that if you have lived in your city for some time,

you’ve forgotten what it was like to be a newcomer. Consider taking your next

date out for a sightseeing trip, even if you are both locals. This is a fun and

exciting way to connect with each other while reconnecting with your city.

86. Go to the theatre. Although most men would prefer to avoid the theatre, women

love it. Surprise your date with tickets to a play, opera or even a ballet. You

might find that the exposure to the arts sparks wonderful conversation or the

beginning of an interest that you can both enjoy.

87. Be flirty. It’s not just the woman’s job to be flirty. If you are interested, show it.

Winking is a quick and easy flirtation that women will recognize immediately as a

sign that you are interested. Eye contact and genuine smiles are also considered

by women to be very flirtatious. So, be yourself but don’t forget those little

gestures to let her know that you’re interested.

88. When asking a woman out for the first time, offer her a choice about the

timing and location. Many women would prefer week-night dates because they

do not cut into her weekend plans or because they are simply more convenient.

Therefore, it is nice to ask her whether she prefers Wednesday or Saturday

evening. If you do not know the woman well, consider letting her pick where you

will have dinner or at least ask her if she has a food preference. This will come

across as sensitive and show the woman that you are setting out to give her a

wonderful evening.

89. Recognize lame excuses. If a woman tells you that she’s busy every time you

ask her out, there is a good chance she is never going to say yes. However, if she

has something that is absorbing excess time such as a sick relative or a big project

at work, it may not be you at all. If a woman turns you down several times, you

would be wise to give her your number and tell her to call when she’s free or to

simply stop asking and move on.

90. Don’t be afraid to approach someone when you are interested. Sometimes,

fear of rejection or nerves keep men from approaching women who catch their

eye. The worst that can happen is that she could tell you she’s not interested.

Start with a compliment and feel good knowing that even if she’s not interested,

the compliment you give her may keep her smiling all afternoon.

91. Avoid dating women who appear overly tired or stressed. If you know the

woman and she’s simply having a bad week, that’s one thing. But asking out a

woman who is having a hard time dealing with something in her life should be a

warning sign. Unless you are prepared to spend the evening listening to her

issues, you are far better off waiting until she comes around and gets her life

together.

92. Be a good “bad guy”. Women love bad guys. They present a challenge and

appear more masculine than men who walk the straight and narrow all of the time.

Therefore, you need to develop your own bad boy streak while maintaining the

straight and narrow. Women are more interested in men who tend to stray from

the beaten path every so often.

93. Remember the basics of dating. Dating is about having fun and getting to know

the other person. It is not about deciding on the first date whether this is the

woman you want to settle down with. You might decide that on your own, but

that’s not the point of the normal first date! It is your responsibility to make sure

that your date has an enjoyable evening and to ensure that she gets home safely.

94. Show strength of character. Women want to be with men they can respect.

Therefore, it is important to demonstrate signs of good character to the women

that you date by being polite, using your manners, offering to pay the bill and

letting her pay half if she insists. Show her that you are worth spending time with

and that you will always be kind and respectful of her and others, and you are

going to make a great impression from the very first date.

95. Know in advance what you are looking for. Men often set out to find Ms.

Right without defining for themselves the traits that woman will have. Take a

few minutes to think about the traits that you would like to see in a long term

partner. You’re not getting any younger, so once you have that list make a

decision about whether the women you are dating now offer what you are looking

for.

96. View dating like the lottery. Don’t make the mistake of expecting every date to

be perfect. Instead, look at dating like the lottery and realize that sometimes you

win and sometimes you don’t. And, most likely you are only going to hit big

once. Even though you won’t necessarily find Ms. Right the first time around,

keep trying. Dating is fun and there is a world full of women out there for you to

get to know.

97. Keep a sense of humor. Even the worst dates can give you something to laugh

about later, and keeping your sense of humor alive will keep the dating process

fun and interesting. Keep that sense of humor with your dates as well and it will

make it easier for the two of you to laugh off any dating mishaps that might

otherwise be embarrassing.

98. Don’t let a woman waste your time. Make every effort to be on time, every

time. This shows respect for yourself and your date. Also, expect the same in

return. If she’s a few minutes late it should not be an issue, but if she shows up

30 minutes late every time you have plans, think about what that tells you about

her character and priorities.

99. Be cautious. Do not believe everything you see and hear until you have had time

to truly experience. Remember that on first dates and even second dates, women

are putting their best foot forward to impress you. Take some time to really get to

know her and whether what you are seeing after a few dates is what you were

seeing on the first few.

100. Realize that someone with whom you have no chemistry for dating

might make an excellent friend. If you are on a date with someone and neither

of you sense any romantic chemistry, it does not mean that you can’t be friends.

Dating is considered a great way to find new friends and as long as neither of you

has a romantic interest in the other a platonic friendship could blossom and form a

life long bond.

101. Be friends too. Dating is about getting to know potential mates, and one

of the most important facets of any romantic relationship is friendship. While you

may spend the first few dates focusing on the romance, be sure to spend some

time developing a friendship as well. Your partner should be your best friend and

if you want to form a life time relationship with someone, it is important to give

as much attention to your friendship as you do to the romantic side of the

relationship.

102. Be willing to trust. Men are often reluctant to open up to others,

particularly women, as a way of protecting themselves from getting hurt. If you

want to get to know a woman, you will need to open up to her in order to get her

to do the same with you. While you might not want to reveal your innermost

desires on the first date, after a while it is important to let her know what you

want out of life.

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